Let’s talk about pretending. As adults, we say this with a sneer – we don’t like to think we’ve caught someone “pretending to be something they’re not”. We will roll our eyes and proclaim that they are nothing less than charlatans! False ! Want to be! The list of names is endless… but… is it really that bad? We all pretend, every day, for all sorts of reasons. Unlike childhood when we pretended to be a cowboy, princess or unicorn tamer, our adult version of pretend play can be just as important. As adults, we’ve reached that stage of “when I’m an adult…!” which we all dreamed of as children… but it’s not as pretty as we thought. Working? Often boring. Pay bills? Still zero. To have a family? It is complicated…
To cope with everyday life, we often have to pretend to make our lives easier. Maybe we get up for work and have a lot to do at home – sick kids, a fight with a spouse, overdue bills and a bad headache. But we’re “faking it” the second we walk through that office door – we’ve had a great weekend! The kids soccer game was a winner! Our partner cooked dinner last night, what a catch! I’m cutting coffee out of my diet and I’ve never felt better!
None of these statements are true, but they avoid further conversation when all you want to do is go to your desk, grab an aspirin, and finish the next project. It’s self-preservation and that’s fine. If you’re in shambles this week, no one else needs to know if you don’t have the energy to rehash it, relive it, or mention it.
But, and there’s always a but, pretending can go too far. As adults, it’s our real job to keep the things we know are wrong under control. Physical violence? It’s not good to pretend not to see what’s going on. Aggression? Report that. Dark feelings due to depression or suicidal thoughts? Please don’t pretend everything is fine – literally everyone wants to help you.
At the end of the day, it’s okay to weed out a bit of what we don’t want to face right now, but there’s always a time to face the tough stuff. On a much lighter note, hey nobody in the gold Kia minivan that hit 4 cars on my street and drove off pretending they didn’t at 1am – that was a trip expensive at the body shop. You’ll feel better if you admit it and stop pretending it’s bad.
On an even lighter note YAY IT’S SPRING, let’s not pretend we don’t want to know what’s good in downtown Santa Rosa in April!!! Check it out…
What’s good for kids in April?
This is the BEST time to think about the Easter Bunny! Downtown, the FIRST EVER Downtown Santa Rosa Egg-Cellent Easter Egg Hunt started March 15th and ends April 3rd! There is no specific time for which you must write or modify your daily schedule: more than 35 participating companies located between the city center around the old court square, Santa Rosa square and the square of the way of iron, and the Easter bunny left Easter eggs for these thirty-five companies.
While you don’t have to change your schedule to be available at a certain time or be in a certain place, you MUST grab a ‘passport’ from one of the participating companies and let the hunt begin! Participating businesses will have a large egg sign in the window, and DowntownSantaRosa.org/egghunt will provide families with clues and a map to guide them to each business.
Downtown Santa Rosa! Stroll…
What is good for adults in April?
We’re going to talk about something that’s good any time of the year, but just happening downtown in April – Lucha Libre! If you’ve never been to a Mexican pro wrestling match, you’re missing out on something amazing! Characterized by colorful masks, quick sequences of catches, as well as high-flying maneuvers, the sport has been embraced all over the United States and as far away as Japan…it’s so good. The wearing of masks has taken on particular importance and matches are sometimes played in which the loser must permanently remove their mask – this has turned into quite serious betting in sports, and the excitement during the match is almost palpable! Whether you’re a bettor or not, this is one show you really don’t want to miss.
The details :
Lucha Libre returns to Santa Rosa with – Super Mex Hernandez, Xtreme Tiger, EL Pecador Y mucho mas.
Sat 16 April 2022
7:00 p.m. – 10:00 p.m.
$20 – $40
Tickets will be at the door.
Refund policy – no refunds.
Or, you can purchase online here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/lucha-libre-april-16-santa-rosa-tickets-220329339987
Santa Rosa Veterans Memorial Building
1351 Maple Avenue
Santa Rosa, CA 95404
What should I have for lunch?
Since April is Easter time, let’s be traditional – you need brunch. Luckily, downtown Santa Rosa is home to THE brunch spot, Café Mimosa. Located just off College Ave., Café Mimosa is dedicated to making all your brunch dreams come true. Eggs Benedict, omelettes, country steak, chorizo and…mimosas! Not just your champagne and orange juice, but guava, mango, pineapple and any other fruity mix they can offer – a must visit.
456 College Avenue, Santa Rosa
Phone: (707) 293-9450
Friday 7 a.m. – 3 p.m.
Saturday 7 a.m. – 3 p.m.
Sunday 7 a.m. – 3 p.m.
Monday 7 a.m. – 3 p.m.
Tuesday 7 a.m. – 3 p.m.
Wednesday 7 a.m. – 3 p.m.
Thursday 7 a.m. – 3 p.m.